"Too scared to turn your light out 'Cause there's something on your mind Was that a noise outside your window? What’s that shadow on the blind? As you lie there naked Like a body in a tomb Suspended animation As I slip into your room…”
I’ve been trying to put my thoughts together in my head all afternoon on my first-time meeting a member of our wonderful Tumblr community… I had an amazing time with impeccablepeccadillo, and I truly believe there couldn’t have been a better choice of Tumblrs to have my first-meetup with.
Even though I hadn’t named who I was meeting when I wrote last week’s "Truthful Tuesday" post, I had mentioned how she was "sweet, understanding, and has one of the biggest hearts I’ve ever known"… and I can now tell you all that ‘real-life’ Sara not only met my lofty expectations, she far exceeded them. As inconceivable as it sounds, Sara is truly EVEN MORE wonderful & amazing in the ‘real world’!
Let’s start from the beginning…
This was actually the very first pic we took (before deciding on the two pics I posted Saturday, where we were making the samefaces), moments after we met when she picked me up from the bus terminal.
As I mentioned on Saturday, we had an unplanned & immediate “bonding” experience at the bus terminal when her car battery died when we first tried to leave, and she had no jumper-cables! - The two of us pushed the car in the pouring freezing-rain while her cousin & his girlfriend alternately attempted to pop-start it. After a couple of laps of pushing it through the parking lot, we finally were able to find a couple of bus mechanics who were able top jump-start the car… And we were finally on our way, after a 50 min delay!
Even though I joked in my earlier post that I "really wouldn’t recommend it as first ‘bonding-experience’ for future internet meetups", in truth it DID help to completely take away any awkwardness, or anxiety from meeting for the first-time. We were just immediately thrown into a crazy, frustrating & exhausting situation and had to react and work together like any group of friends would have done… It was immediately like we had known each other for years, and once we dried off & got some coffee, there was truly nothing more that you could do but laugh about it. After all of that car-pushing, the rest of the weekend was easy-going & pure fun.
Here we are with Sara’s two adorable daughters [known for a long time in Tumblr-Land as Thing #1 & Thing #2]. This was right after we had gotten ready, and were on our way to her sister’s party.
When we first got back to Sara’s house, I surprised the girls with small Halloween Gift-bags (because I couldn’t allow myself to visit empty-handed)… And in turn, *they* surprised me a little while later with a Happy Halloween card that they made for me while I was getting ready to go…
…And yes, it IS already displayed prominently on my Fridge! ;)
Next up, we went to the Halloween party, hosted by Sara’s sister & brother-in-law. I hadn’t eaten since breakfast, and rarely drink anymore, so I must say that it’s been many, many years since I’ve been that buzzed. [I’m sure most of you have already seen the “drunk Tumblring” pics I posted from last night… And did I mention that Sara looked F’n Amazing?!! Oh yeah, I did. :P ]
Besides meeting her sister & brother-in-law at the party, I also met her brother Neil, who decided to pick the Halloween party to surprise everyone by proposing to his girlfriend during the party! So, it was definitely a memorable & fun night all around.
After getting back to Sara’s (and sobering up), I think one of my favorite “highlights” of the weekend was just staying up late, and having a great conversation about Tumblr, and all of the wonderful people we’ve gotten to know through this place. The friends we have in common, and how we first came to know them; the friends who have left that we miss; and how many we’ve grown close to that each other didn’t know. - This got me thinking about how wonderful this place truly is: even though there is a bunch of you who we *both* have in common, it’s truly only a small portion of each of our collective Tumblr sub-communities.
Today started out a little rough, after little sleep in addition to recovering from last night’s drinking, but all of us (Sara, her cousin, his girlfriend, and myself) spent most of the day helping Sara’s oldest with her R.L. Stine-themed ‘Horror Diorama’ for school. This ended-up being a lot of fun, and she was so happy with the finished project.
And finally, I unexpectedly was able to meet Sara’s parents, when they came to pickup her youngest, while Sara brought the rest of us home. It was really great to meet practically her *entire* family during these two days. One of the things that Sara & I have most bonded-over during the past year was both growing up in Southern New England, and having extremely similar backgrounds/family. - I’m usually not one to immediately feel comfortable around new people, but that wasn’t the case at all this weekend. Sara and her family were so much like the friends & family that I’ve grown up around, and so much like my own family that I felt immediately comfortable and welcome.
This brings me to Juliet'samazing post about Tumblr from earlier today (which I actually read aloud to Sara, while she was driving me home this afternoon). I know that it’s been reblogged like crazy, and that that most of you have already read it (and if you haven’t please do - she captures Tumblr perfectly for non-Tumblrs), and while I love the *entire* post, this particular line stood out for me, as I was reflecting on this weekend:
"We interact with hundreds, we don’t always agree with them, and we form close friendships with a few, those are the ones we bring into our ‘real life’."
I just want to truly thank Sara, so much, for completely bringing me into her ‘real life’. As wonderful as I already knew her to be ‘virtualy’ was just magnified x1000 in real life. I got to see her take care of friends, help with her sister’s party, get excited for her brother’s happy news, and be a amazingly patient and loving mother to her daughters… All the while putting the needs of everyone else before her own. She gives whatever she can to help the people in her life, whether it’s family, friends, or even *this* "strange guy she met on the Internet."
If you ever have chance to meet one of your longtime favorite Tumblrs in-person, please take that chance… It’s quite simply one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
This was from late this afternoon, as we were saying goodbye for now… Thank You Sara, and I can’t wait for our next *Adventure!
[*-If all goes as-planned, it’ll be "Turkey with Tumblrs" on Thanksgiving weekend with Melissa, aka-onethousanddays. This time I’ll bring the Jumper-Cables!]
Blind Faith - Can’t Find My Way Home [Electric Version]
Well actually, I *did* find my way home…
I’m home now, Sara dropped me off at my apartment a little over an hour ago, and I’ve been unpacking & trying to get my thoughts together for a full “Wrap-Up” post on this awesome weekend of “Meeting the Internet”.
The post will be coming up as soon as I finish uploading the rest of my pictures, and settle-down to write my thoughts. - Stay Tuned!
John Lennon - Nobody Loves You (When You’re Down And Out)
"Nobody loves you when you’re down and out Nobody sees you when you’re on cloud nine Everybody’s hustling for a buck and a dime I’ll scratch your back and you scratch mine I’ve been across to the other side I’ve shown you everything, I got nothing to hide And still you ask me do I love you, what it is, what it is All I can tell you is it’s all show biz (x2) (What it is, what it is, what it is)
Nobody loves you when you’re down and out Nobody knows you when you’re on cloud nine Everybody’s hustling for a buck and a dime I’ll scratch your back and you knife mine I’ve been across the water now so many times I’ve seen the one eyed witchdoctor leading the blind And still you ask me do I love you, what you say, what you say Every time I put my finger on it, it slips away (x2) (What you say, what you say, what you say)”
Since I’ll be wearing a Halloween costume for the first time in *22* years this coming weekend, I figured I should probably reblog *this* post, from last October (since many of you were not following me back then)… And I hope you all enjoy seeing me in tights! ;)
… Halloween *1989*! This was me (with a cardboard Michael Keaton from our Video Center), two weeks before I turned 17… this was the year that Tim Burton’s first Batman movie came out, and at the grocery store I worked at a bunch of us decided to dress-up for Halloween as character’s from the Batman-universe.
Yes, this is the *only* time you will ever see me in tights!!! :P
The greatest part of that day was that myself and “Batman” barely had to do any work that day, because all the kids in the store kept wanting to have their pictures taken with the “Dynamic Duo”!
(Of course, I’m now realizing that most of those ‘kids’ are now probably in their late-20’s by now! *Ugh!* Damn, that makes me feel old!)
“Holy Camera-hogs! Stop mugging for the camera, and help me, Batman!!!”
"…And we’ll chalk it up to a lesson learned And hopefully, by now your senses have returned And I guess its back to the drawing board To recreate the conversation With no lack of communication It can’t wait anymore For sanity to be restored.”
Truthful Tuesday II (...a few minutes late...oops!)
I’m only a few short days away from "Meeting the Internet", and I must say I think I’m finally beginning to fully understand the concept “Pre-Meetup Anxiety”, that I’ve seen many of you write about before the big meetups… that fear that you’ll be a disappointment in-person, or won’t be able to be “On” as your “internet-self” the whole time, and that your “real-self” isn’t nearly as interesting.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m *completely* looking forward to this coming weekend, and I know this “anxious feeling” is just over-worrying. The person I’m meeting is someone I’ve considered to be a great friend for the past year. We’ve kik’d, texted, talked on the phone, etc… She’s been a huge support to me during times when I’ve really needed it, and I’d like to think I’ve been able to be the same for her. She’s sweet, understanding, and has one of the biggest hearts I’ve ever known. - I know that this pre-meetup anxiety is completely irrational, and yet it *is* there. I’m just hopeful that the nerves go away once we finally meet in-person on Saturday.
In some way, I think that maybe it’s better that I’m meeting someone I fully trust, one-on-one, first before going to the much-larger SNARK meetup in February. Maybe this is just supposed to happen to help ease me into meeting so many more of you in New York.
All I can say for sure is that even with this anxiety, I still truly can’t wait for Saturday to come! :)
[A portion of "The Celebration of the Lizard", from The Doors In Concert.]
Truthful Tuesday- Music Edition: Back in my very-short pot smoking years (ages 18-19, about *20* years ago!), I used to listen to this album way too much, and could recite the entire "The Celebration of the Lizard" section, which included this song, word-for-word.
I tried ‘testing’ myself this afternoon, before listening to this, and found that I can still recite about a good 85-90% of it from memory, without having to play it first!